In this day and age of spiralling immorality and vice raising a pious child may seem to be impossible and something not even worth trying to do because failure is guaranteed. This is the thought of many a parent today who want to raise children with deep Islamic values but when they see the tides of western influences they are disillusioned and back off almost instantly.

Regardless of how unconducive the conditions are, Raising and educating children Islamically is one of the duties required of every parents. Despite the very many odds stacked against us, we have to try. Allah Ta’ala will not take us to task if we try and fail but most assuredly will do so if we fail to try. As such this remains an indispensable duty on every parent.

Allah Ta’ala has enjoined this in the Qur’aan, and his messenger Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa sallam has endorsed this. Allah Ta’ala, conveying this obligation, says in the Qur’aan: 

“O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allaah, but do that which they are commanded”[Suratut-Tahreem, verse:6] 

Here Allah Ta’ala is saying to us: O you who believe in Allah and His Messenger, “Save yourselves” i.e. teach one another that which will protect you from the Fire and then save your families too.The phrase “and your families against a Fire” means, and teach your families to do acts of obedience to Allah Ta’ala so that they also be protected from the Fire. 


So as per the Qur’aanic injunction this is a duty that a man owes to himself, his children and his family.

 We have to teach our children and families the rights of Allah Ta’ala and His Messenger Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam which is deduced from the following verse:

“And enjoin As-Salaat (the prayer) on your family, and be patient in offering them [i.e. the Salaat (prayers)]”(Suratut taaha, verse: 132)


Every Muslim is a daa’ee (propagator) of Islam, so the first people whom he calls should be his children and family who are close to him. When Allah Ta’ala commanded His Messenger Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa sallam to call his people to Islam, He said: 

“And warn your tribe (O Muhammad) of near kindred”(Suratus Shuarah, verse: 214)

This verse reiterates and emphasizes the importance of teaching Islam to ones family members first before anyone else, because they are the first people to whom one should do good and show mercy to.  

The Messenger Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam gave the parents the responsibility of raising the children in an Islamic manner and made that obligatory upon them. 

Hadrat Abdullaah Bin Umar Radiyallaahu Anhu said: I heard the Messenger of Allah Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa sallam say: “Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The ruler is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. A man is the shepherd of his family and is responsible for his flock. A woman is the shepherd of her husband’s household and is responsible for her flock. A servant is the shepherd of his master’s wealth and is responsible for his flock.” He said: and I think he said, “A man is the shepherd of his father’s wealth and is responsible for his flock. Each of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock.” (Bukhari and Muslim)

According to the above hadeeth part of every parents duty, which he will be held accountable for, is to bring up his or her children, from a young age to love Allah Ta’ala and His Messenger thereby respecting and loving every command of theirs .You should tell them that Allah Ta’ala has a Paradise and a Hell and that His Hell is a hot blazing  with which he punishes those who are disobedient to Him and that he also has a garden of paradise beneath which river flow and in it are very beautiful things which He has promised those who are obedient to Him. This should form the basis of every Muslim childs tarbiyaah.

There was a king who had a lot of wealth, and he had a daughter and no other children. He loved her very much, and he used to let her enjoy all kinds of entertainment. This went on for a long time. Beside the king there lived a devoted worshipper, and whilst he was reciting one night, he raised his voice saying, “O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones “ . The girl heard his recitation and said to her servants, “Stop!” But they did not stop. The worshipper started to repeat the verse, and the girl kept telling them to stop, but they did not stop. She put her hands to her collar and tore her garment, and they went to her father and told him the story. He went to her and said, “My dear, what happened to you tonight? What made you weep?” and he hugged her. She said, “I ask you by Allah Ta’ala, O my father, do tell me, does Allah Ta’ala have a Fire the fuel of which is men and stones?” He said, “Yes.” She asked him, “Why did you not tell me? By Allah Ta’ala I will not eat any good food or sleep on any soft bed until I know whether my abode is in Paradise or Hell.” The girl then gave up every worldly pleasure that her father provided her with and began leading a life in the obedience of Allah Ta’ala. 

Every parent who wishes to rear pious children has to keep them away from  places of immorality and misguidance. We cannot provide them with the latest cell phones, -ipads and iphones with unbridled use, allow them to patronise and attend comedy shows and musicals, give them ‘ weekend movie and mall getaways’ and expect them to become pious and righteous. One who sows thorns cannot harvest grapes. And this should be done when they are still very young and in their formative years, as a tree cannot be set straight after being bent!

So whilst many a parent embarks on raising their children Islamically there is something that cannot be ignored. If we want our children to lead righteous and pious lives we need to do the same for do as I do is more effective than do as I say!

In the process of trying to raise our children Islamically we will often battle to see the fruits of our efforts but that does not mean we should give up and throw in the towel. We need to keep on trying. Perhaps not today, not tomorrow but someday we will reap the fruits- may be not even in our lifetimes but because of our attempts at tarbiyaah we will be rewarded in our graves! At least we have tried and Allah Ta’ala has seen it all!

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